Jamyang Kyi posted this letter to Tsering Kyi, Miss Tibet 2003, on her personal blog. It is a response to a piece by Tsering Kyi posted on the Tibetan Lamp, a site described here on the Tibet Web Digest. Jamyang Kyi is also writing after Tsering Kyi’s blog seemed to be shut down. Jamyang Kyi’s blog can be found at
A biography of Tsering Kyi can be found at
An anonymous translator submitted this piece on January 7, 2008.
A while ago, I heard that Tsering Kyi’s blog had been shut down. Because I rarely visit the blogosphere, I do not know the reasons behind it. Today, I went to The Tibet Lamp and saw her note. Although I promptly posted her notes on my blog, I would like to write something on this matter myself. In general, because of culture, tradition, society, environment, and education, there are very few competent Tibetan women in Tibet. Even if there are such women existing in Tibet, these women are abused in every possible way by their cultural traditions and environment. Frankly, if we tell truth, the culture supports the physical and emotional abuse of women. Women are expected to be humble and to give all good things to others, while leaving the bad things for themselves. If women talk too much or have their own views on a subject, they are treated as bad signs or omens. Whereas, if women work hard and don’t talk too much, they are treated as good women. Today, a few thousand years late, there are a few women who have grown beyond the patriarchal traditions and are using their own minds to think through their individual stress and desires. They are beginning to defend their interests. A fortunate result of this is women’s love for life. It is the first step for the nationality’s awakening, and it should be applauded. However, more men view the development negatively than applaud it. Judging by their views, as in the past, women should stay at home rather than travelling around world. The woman’s sole responsibility is to take care of other women and children. I think that though Tsering Kyi is a woman, she experiences none of these negative pressures. As a women myself, I welcome her beauty and love for life and for Tibet. Finally, I would like to say something to her. It is not the fault of the Tibetans living in Tibet that you had to leave your homeland to live in exile, so please do not blame us. I wrote this because I want to apologize to you, so please do not take offense with us. I hope we will forgive to each other. I hope you will come again and again to this barren land of ours.
Just as the women are the field, women are also the seeds of the field. There can’t be a real world without women’s ideas, love, intelligence, qualities, consciousness, and experience, as the past has shown. Please come back. We need women like you. In general, our society is made of monks. There are no women’s voices, experiences or histories, but there is room to claim women’s voices. Although women have spent their whole lives near stoves, the houses have never belonged to them. These houses belong to brutal, unyielding, power hungery, womanizing, egotistical fools. I often feel inexplicable fear, a loneliness and fear that have never subsided. I want to share this special experience with you. I wrote this on the first day of 2008 in contempt of Tibetan women’s fate and as a wake-up call for women in the land of snow.